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Monday, September 26, 2011

My Mindset a.k.a. The Joker said it best, "Why so serious?"

My general outlook in life is fairly simple, at least in my opinion. I live my life keeping in mind three simple things. While some may believe I am naive, hopeless, cautious or hesitant (at times), I feel I have a pretty good grip on how to handle myself, my mood, and my outlook on life. Here are those three simple things.

1) Don't let others negativity get to you.

First off, I don't let things that others do affect me. Now don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying I do not care about others, because I do care. Its just if I talk to or interact with someone and they say something that would usually make someone upset or make them dwell, I wouldn't let it get to me. Again, it's not that I don't listen or care because deep deep down (I feel) we are constantly changing ourselves to get as many people to like us as possible. I just don't make it a violently conscious effort to change myself for one person that I just met, and by just met I mean people I've encountered from today til about 6 months ago. Hard to think people let something so little affect them in such a big way from such a miniscule part of their lives. Someone has to be a pretty big part of my life to bring me down or make me seriously consider a change in something that I do. Heck, I have been telling myself to clean up my language but no such luck for that. On the other hand, people who affect me in a positive way are the ones I will go out of my way for (as most people would).

2) Please as many people as I can, make people laugh, and affect them in a positive way.

Oddly enough, I like to think I affect people in a positive way. If you know me, I think you'll see that regardless of my sarcasm and foul language I'm actually a happy, caring, fun individual who likes to laugh (and will do just about anything for a laugh). I used to have low self-esteem, I was quiet and I didn't have too many friends; for those who were my friends back in the day I send out much love for "putting up with me". Many of those are still my friends now and I thank you for still putting up with me. Back to the topic of discussion however. Even though I have a very different exterior and mindset today, due to my own will, determination, and hopes of being a popular and likeable person, I was able to break my shy shell but still be the person I am deep down. You know what I mean if you took the time to get to know me. And if you know me, you know that I'll do anything for a laugh, because I want people to forget whats negative in their life and just let go. I'm happy and I try to spread it whenever I can.

3) Lastly, Stay Positive, Be Happy.

Those are capitalized for a reason, because it is the most important thing. Granted if you're positive all the time, you could be let down, yes , but if you're negative you're down all the time as it is and getting kicked while you're down is never a good feeling. Since I've made myself think positive a few years ago, I've experienced much more happiness in my life than ever before. People see that you're happy and it makes you even more happy, that way if/when a negative thing does come your way it won't hurt you nearly as bad. Plus, you already have other things to be happy about instead of just being mopey, gloomy, or down. Just think about this, what happens when you're mad? Things may be said that you don't mean, something may be overlooked, or done a wrong way. What I'm getting at is this, hardly anything good comes out of being mad, so why sit and dwell? Why possibly say something that you may have to apologize for? Why bring someone else down if you brush them aside? Turn it around, learn to laugh at silly little things, learn to laugh at big things, laugh at everything, laugh until you don't think about anything except laughing. I try to make people laugh so they're not stressed because I know being stressed sucks, and I personally hate the feeling. So keep your chin up, stay positive and do what makes you happy. It has done wonders for me and I can bet that if you stick with it for a month and actively tell yourself to look at the bright side of things, your general mood will be lifted as well as others moods around you.

Breakdown:

Big Mouth Billy Bass is a great example; that fish knows how happy he is when he is in the water. He won't let anything else get in his way until he gets into the water, and even then he's in a great mood because he IS in the water. Nothing can or will bring him down when he isn't thinking about anything but being positive and focusing on what makes him happy. That is all that fish sings about! How can a simple fish, made of plastic, rubber, and moving parts, be so knowledgeable and wise (and affordable! $19.95 plus S&H for those who are curious, batteries not included)?

Ask yourself one last thing, what is your equivalent of Big Mouth Billy Bass' water?